The Best Self Help/Motivational Books

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Now that I’m 26, I’m really into loving myself and building myself up. I drink lots of water, feed myself right, and read books that encourage me to be the best version of myself. I love reading self-help and motivational books because they give me the right kick in the ass to love myself and want more out of life.

There’s a weird stigma with self-help books. I know a few people who feel embarrassed that they read them. Or they think that something is wrong if they want to read self-help books. DON’T FEEL ASHAMED FOR WANTING TO BETTER YOUR LIFE. We all need to love ourselves more and appreciate life. Sometimes it takes the perspective of others to show you how different your life can be. Personal growth is just that. It’s personal. You don’t do it for other people. You do it for yourself. We are only given one life, why not get the most out of it?

I may not use all the tips that self-help books provide, but I take bits and pieces of each to make a happier life.

I’m always searching for new books. Here’s a few of my favorites that give me the motivation I need to grab life by the balls and make it my bitch.

You Are A Badass – Jen Sincero


I love Jen Sincero. She’s honest, and it feels like she’s talking to you one-on-one. She tells us how it is and how we are the only thing stopping ourselves from living the life we want. She reminds us that we control our life’s and how others make you feel. Try to focus on the things we can control and not about the future or things that haven’t happened yet or how others perceive us.

We get what we put out into the universe. You put out good thoughts and good karma, good things will come. If you focus on the negative, that’s all you’ll get. Believe that you deserve the life you want, and the universe will move heaven and earth to make it happen.

“If you want to live a life you’ve never lived, you have to do things you’ve never done.”

Girl, Wash Your Face– Rachel Hollis


Life is hard. This book is perfect if you have fallen on hard times, you broke up with your partner, having doubts about your greatness. You tell yourself lies about yourself and start to believe it. You’re fat, unloveable, unsuccessful, not good enough, bad friend, bad wife, just sucky. But this isn’t true, not even a little bit. You are amazing. You have to start believing that about yourself or no one will. You need to choose to be happy in life. You were made for more.

It reminds us that even though things look bleak right now, it won’t be like that forever. You have to choose yourself and your own happiness.

“Girl, get ahold of your life. Stop medicating, stop hiding out, stop being afraid, stop giving away pieces of yourself, stop saying you can’t do it. Stop the negative self-talk, stop abusing your body, stop putting it off for tomorrow or Monday or next year. Stop crying about what happened and take control of what happens next. Get up, right now. Rise up from where you’ve been, scrub away the tears and the pain of yesterday, and start again…Girl, wash your face!”

Girl, Stop Apologizing – Rachel HollisPIN IT

This book is the truth. Stop apologizing for your feelings, other people, and other people’s feelings about you. You don’t owe anyone anything. You can be great, you just have to allow yourself to do so. Rachel Hollis reminds me of one of my girlfriends, encouraging me to be great without approval from anyone. She pushes readers. What’s stopping you from accomplishing your goals and your dreams? You are. She asks If not now, when? It’s true. You have to make time for the things you want out of life. What’s the point of putting it off?

You don’t need permission to be your self, or to have goals, or to pursue your goals. You don’t need the validation of someone else to tell you how to live your life. Stop making excuses and live the life you want.

“It’s time to stop apologizing for who you are. It’s time to become who you were made to be.”

Adventures For Your Soul – Shannon Kaiser


This book is everything. I’ve read tons of self-help/ motivational books, but this one stuck with me the most. I devoured this book. Every page had me hooked. I’ve never highlighted a book so much. I love that it helped me break down my goals and my fears.

“Just like the characters of a movie, you are a character in the show called “Life.” Are you in a starring role? Or are you a supporting actor?”

Big Magic– Elizabeth GilbertPIN IT

This book isn’t like her other Eat, Pray, Love, where she goes on a life-changing adventure for herself. Big magic helps you unlock your creativity. Something always stops us from pursuing our passion. Elizabeth Gilbert wants us to forget about the negative, the rejections, and the disapproval. Don’t get caught up in the outcome. Just let yourself be. You’d be surprised by what you can accomplish.

“Do whatever brings you to life. Then, follow your own fascinations, obsessions, and compulsions. Trust them. Create whatever causes a revolution in your heart.”

The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A Fuck -Mark Manson


This gem explains the hard truths about life. We often tend to focus on things that aren’t important. He reminds us that we give too much energy to things that won’t matter in the long run. Focus on you. Find what is important to you and fuck everything else. Your gotta choose yourself and choose to be happier.

“Who you are is defined by what you’re willing to struggle for.”

Year of Yes – Shonda RhimesPIN IT

If I could be anyone when I grow up, I would want to be Shona Rhimes. She is fucking brilliant. I love her writing style and how relatable she is. In Year of Yes, she describes agreeing to everything people ask her for one full year. If her kids asked her to play, she would, if someone asked her to speak publicly she would. I like the concept of saying yes, because what’s the worst that could happen? You have to take chances to get the things you want out of life.

“Happiness comes from being who you actually are instead of who you think you’re supposed to be.”

I’m constantly looking and reading other motivational books if you have any that you think I should read comment below. Remember to stay positive, good things are coming.




  • Sandra Ammon
    April 10, 2020

    Hello! site is very useful and inspirational, and I do not think I arrived
    without a reason. That’s why I want to help others share a book that has helped me a lot in my life:

  • Jenn
    May 5, 2020

    I’ve been wanting to read the Year of Yes for a bit now. Also I love me some Rachel Hollis!! Do you have any of her start today journals or been to any of her events?

    • mayahxlolita
      May 15, 2020

      I would love to go to one of her conferences. She’s great and down to earth. I don’t love her journals. There’s definitely others that I like more. I love 52 lists for happiness. I also make my own version for my iPad that I use everyday. How do you like the start today journals?

  • Clarissa Cabbage
    May 5, 2020

    Awesome list! I’ve been looking for a new read. The only one of these I have read is The Art Of Not Giving A F*ck, which I really enjoyed! I think I might start with Adventures for Your Soul. Thank you!

    • mayahxlolita
      Clarissa Cabbage
      May 15, 2020

      Yesssss. Do it. I freaking loved Adventures for the soul. It made me think. The book also has a corresponding meditating playlist on Spotify. I didn’t love this particular playlist but I like that it face your the option.

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